When people wonder what Psychological & Emotional abuse looks like, I don’t know how to really give them a taste of it without actually making them go through it. Those that live it, know it. And I wouldn’t ever wish it for anyone.
In a nut shell…
It’s like an intellectual person is told to never think,
a learner is told he is not allowed to learn,
a goal achiever is told you shouldn’t have any goals,
a communicator is told to never speak,
a lover is told there is nothing like love in the world,
a writer is told to never lift a pen again,
a seeker is told to blind himself,
It’s like an alive person is told to live within a dead body…
THAT my friends is psychological & emotional abuse. When you are not allowed to have you as you ever, you being ripped off of yourself, your individuality, your core, your feelings, everything is taken away from you as if it belongs to someone else.
Solution may seem simple: just don’t listen – however, before a person even acknowledges and reaches to the conclusion that he/she is a victim of psychological & emotional abuse, he/she is already conditioned to a point that they no longer know when and which talk is from their brain vs abuser’s.
Never underestimate or downplay psychological & emotional abuse, whether it is happening to you or someone you know. Do whatever is needed to provide safety and healing. Validation of their feelings should be on the top of the list. Abuse isn’t a one day thing, someone just having a bad day and reacting badly. Abuse is a long process, a pattern.
Just because we can’t see the scars and blood doesn’t mean they aren’t there.
